I feel like I haven’t posted anything in a while. I don’t want to neglect this blog. I know I have readers, and I want to keep my readers! I’ve had a few 80 year old days recently (which is any day I feel 80 instead of 21), and have been watching bad daytime TV instead of typing. I’ve also been getting some extra sleep which cuts out the midnight posts. I hope you all understand. There has been a lot of contemplation over the last few days about multiple things in regards to dating.
There was an article that made MSN’s front page about not settling. Basically the main point was if you are complaining about being 40 and single because you didn’t settle, you would probably have complained about being 40 and in a terrible marriage if you had settled. My sentiments exactly. The dating mixer was called off due to the proximity of a very important fundraiser I am holding. Well, I should say the mixer was called off for Sally and I. There will be other opportunities I’m sure. I investigated other random dating websites, but didn’t sign up. There was one for pretty women seeking rich guys. Not my thing. Why isn’t there a website for the impoverished artsy people? Then I found a website for people who probably meet their yearly deductibles for health insurance. There were actually healthy people seeking out sick people. I found this highly suspicious. Also, when someone lists “shy” as their disability, it is just plain insulting.
At the health conferences I attend for “chronic” people like me, there is a running joke we should have “dating advice” sessions. I think we probably should because I have no clue how to approach this issue. A lot of my friends have health issues, and everyone who knows me (unless they’ve been under a rock forever) knows that I’m not the poster child of wellness. I’m not dying, I’m just complicated! I can take care of myself. A huge part of my life has been volunteering for organizations, including starting my own camp, to make people like myself have easier lives. It’s not like this is even a topic that can be held off until you’ve dated someone a while. It’s a lot for a person to wrap their head around, but it has been my whole life. It seems so normal to me. I realize it is anything but normal to others. “Hey love, what’s your blood type? It’s time for a transfusion, you interested?” is not cute! There’s no way to package “my body doesn’t really make its own blood” amongst other things with a little bow on top. Some of my family and friends lovingly refer to me as a vampire. I guess from there it’s either they are ok with it, or they aren’t. That’s something that is very important to know. It will just hurt if I ever find someone who finds less than perfect health to be a deal breaker.
The dating websites have been slow. Not that I’ve really been on them that much. I’m bored with the whole process. You talk to people for a while, and then they stop writing. I’ve even neglected to send a few people messages back. There was an 18 year old who was arguing the fact that he is not too young for me. He said I was lying when I said I had graduated college at 20. Not so. One guy wrote me a letter that the website rejected because it was so long! He had to shorten it quite a bit. He said movie and music interests define whether he is interested in a girl. Do movies and music matter that much? I guess it’s something to think about.
I didn’t hear back from cynical journalist. He hadn’t even been on the website. I decided I would friend him on facebook. He did give me his name after all. I wrote a disclaimer message that if I was way off base and he didn’t want to friend me, I would understand. I really would like to talk to him again. I found him very interesting. Preferably, I’d like to meet him outside of computer-world. He accepted my request… and now what? Do I wait for him to contact me? Do I contact him? I need advice! Please feel free to leave non-harassing opinion messages! Anyone can post a reply. Wait. What if he reads this? Hmmm…
Dear Cynical Journalist,
I hope you don’t mind that I’ve been writing about you on a dating blog that you, until now, didn’t know about. I’m a writer. You’re a writer. You get it, right? I also hope you are ok with your blog name. You claimed to be cynical, and you are a journalist. I thought you were pretty cool when we e-mailed/chatted. We seemed to have a lot in common. I would like to talk to you again. Remember when you mentioned meeting? Well I still think that was a great idea. I’m a particular fan of Starbucks. I have this weekend free. Oh, and I hope you don’t mind that I’m a vampire. The cats out of the bag there.
Sincerely,
The Abnormal Redhead Girl from the Dating Website Who Friended You on Facebook
That’s all I have for now. I need to find other ways to meet guys.
-SJ
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I think if we actually had a dating advice session we'd all be asking questions and no one would have answers, haha. Everyone has different rules for telling people. It's all so confusing. I don't know if it will ever be figured out. You just need to find someone who accepts you for who you are, healthy or not so heatlhy. It shouldn't matter.
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