Stealing my way into the steel industry.

Today I’m fed up with the on-line dating scene. Maybe I’m just having an off day. I looked at the list of people that have contacted me. 90 people on one site, and 5 on the other site that I have just joined. Do I have a problem? This doesn’t even include the now around 20 people that I have contacted. Some of the people I have contacted I am still talking to here or there. That’s a lot of people. I’m literally running out of locals. I’ve been keeping tabs on the “new people” page. I have encountered about eight or so people that I would’ve gone out on a date with. Either they don’t live anywhere close by to go on a date, or things just kind of didn’t continue to that point. There are maybe two people whom I am still hoping I will meet.

I know there are books out there circulating that say people should just settle. I don’t want to settle! I shouldn’t have to settle. That would just be unfair to the other person. I wouldn’t want someone to settle for me. It’s like the messages I get where people tell me that I’m attractive for a red head. Can’t I just be attractive? I have no qualms with deleting the “hey baby” messages or some of the other strange ones I’ve posted below. The deleted people were clearly not interested in dating. They probably would be ok knowing me (biblically speaking) for one day, and that’s not ok with me. Some guy today sent me a message about how he was sure he would make my Valentine’s Day special. How would that happen? I dislike Valentine’s Day and it is not just because I’m single. I have traumatic memories from fifth grade (I was eight years old), and I gave a boy a box of chocolates which he threw in the garbage. My future boyfriend is completely off the hook. That holiday doesn’t even exist on my calendar.

I would like to address some of the comments I have received. Morgan, I am so happy things worked out well for you! You were spot on with the website. I appreciate your encouragement. I know someone is out there. I just have to find them first.

Next, to the anonymous poster. First of all, I know exactly who you are. Pretty much because I have magical powers. Please stop sipping the haterade. This blog is all in good fun. I would never ever count someone out of the potential dating group for a single typo, or two, or three. My response to that one guy spelling weirdo wrong was just because he had been already calling me a list of quite grotesque names. A girl doesn’t deserve to be called names. Yes, I hit two e’s instead of an ea for stealing. Oh well. Are you also aware that I use fragment sentences quite often? If my “friends” feel like judging me, so be it. Even published authors have editors for a reason. What I don’t understand is that a person’s profile is the first glimpse of who that person is. When I talk about spelling things, it’s mostly from the people who literally spell every single word wrong. It shows a lack of effort. It’s like the people who do not upload pictures and think they will still get dates. I would never think someone was a liar for how they spell. I don’t quite know where you got that from. Where did I even mention liars? I pay attention to language and words because I’m a writer. I like reading words and I like writing words. Come on, have a sense of humor. Litten was pretty funny.

I am currently talking to the most adorable 20 year old possibly on the history of the planet. He is not my type, but I’m open to talking to people if they seem nice. I only flat-out refuse to talk to offensive people. After the second sentence in our chat, he asked if I would meet him. I politely refused, and said it was way too soon. I had only said “hello” and “how are you”. He apologized and said he always ends up in trouble by wanting to meet girls too soon. He said he just can’t believe he is almost 21 and still single. I made a few jokes about how he is almost middle aged. It’s the cutest train wreck ever. I’m coaching him about how to properly talk to girls. I really hope it helps him. I may not be able to get my own date, but I do know how I would want to be talked to.

I am looking to try other dating things in addition to the on-line dating. I’m hoping going out with Sally will lead to meeting some promising people. Then Sally and I are talking about going to this mixer thing a few days before a holiday that other people celebrate at some point in February. To make it clear, I never count people out just because of a limited number of typos. I do not reply back to people who are telling me about their motel rooms. Can you blame me? The most important thing is clearly compatibility. If you can’t hold an e-mail conversation with a person, it most likely won’t work out when you meet.

-SJ